Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Discrimination Brought Upon Demands



The latest craze in our community has lead to many seeing us as dangerous and confrontational.  We are going to be seen as trouble makers creating further difficulties to find jobs or to keep them.  No employer wants to feel they have to walk on egg shells or have a staff member that will create problems with the team. One thing is to want equality and be able to work as well as lead a normal life, and the other is to create demands in a world that is barely getting use to trans individuals.

Demanding things really will get us nowhere, we must lead by example show that we are good people, qualified to do the job. We must appeal to peoples emotion, win them over, not scare them away. We can't run away from the fact that we appear as different to many, and most in our world have problems with different, that is until they get to know us personally and realize we are just like them.

There are many in the community that are too quick to jump on the discrimination bus, instead of seeing that it might be something they are doing or saying that may be the true cause of discrimination. Self awareness is not easy for some, and much easier to blame others for our troubles. I personally have never had an issue with being trans, I out myself every chance I get, and find people are open and welcoming to my situation. It is a matter of education, visibility and showing the world we are an asset to the work place and relationship. Be proud of who you are, walk with your head high and stop living life as a victim.

Saturday, June 14, 2014

LEARNING TO LOVE SELF WILL HELP YOU LOVE OTHERS




We are so blessed to have found each other, we have learn so many things as a trans couple and feel we can help others through many obstacles. Our Love story has been viewed through out the world and we have received an overwhelming amount of positive response. We wanted to create a platform where we can help other couples or individuals who find they are having problems coping in a relationship or over all with their situation in life. We will provide online chatting via Skype or chat lines for a donation. I am a life coach as well as an Occupational Therapist, but besides all the qualifications, life has been my biggest teacher. Jessica and I together will set the stage to assist you with any questions or issues you wish us to discuss. Please fill out the contact form and we will set up an appointment.

Consultations Subject include:

  • How to deal with dating
  • Making Love as a Trans person or with a Trans person
  • How to let go of fear when going out as your true self
  • How to deal with family and friends
  • Body image issues
  • Learning to tap into your higher self and changing your thought process
  • Learning to Cope no matter what the situation
  • How to Love yourself Unconditionally 
  • Transition questions and advice for yourself or love one


Here is our interview with National Geographic. We hope we can be an inspiration to you and for you to realize that you are deserving of Love.





We Love you but remember to always Love yourself too. Mark Angelo and Jessica Lynn Cummings

Friday, June 6, 2014

Unstable Minds Should Not Be On Hormones

It is scary to see how many trans individuals who have many underlying issues be either self medicating on HRT, or have found a way to fool their gatekeeper. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to know that many in the trans community are angry and pose a threat to themselves and others. Just peruse many of the Facebook groups and take a read, the name calling and personal attacks to those that don't agree with them or have different views is rather alarming.

Just the other day after reading another uproar from the community regarding a company who sells glasses called Ryders Eyewear, my wife and I voiced our opinion that many in the community lack a sense of humor and are too quick to get mad. Many attacked our views, but this one particular individual that goes by the name of Kilo Bravo on Facebook  and KNBProds on You Tube, became very verbally abusive and showed an abnormal angry response to the point of threatening us. The altercation quickly became vile, and I did throw in a few digs about his looks after his abusive threats. I explained to him that Cyber bullying is a crime and he can end up in jail. Well as soon as I said this, he removed his comments and reported mine, which led Facebook to block my account for 7 days. To no avail after trying to contact Facebook to straighten out the situation, we decided to investigate the individual further and were floored by what we found. This person has videos blowing things up, and shooting objects such as a printer. He possesses chemicals that I am sure can land him in jail. This person claims to be a trans female, but has no characteristics of such and is full of hate and anger.  Further alarming he is on hormones according to a transition video he made and posted on his Facebook page.

Now where I am getting at with all of this is what we are seeing are many unstable individuals with anger and other mental issues who are dangerous to themselves and our community. Most of these individuals are self medicating I have to believe, because if a therapist is actually handing out letters to people who have apparent mental issues, they should be held responsible for what ever happens and their license revoked. We believe this person is capable of harming people and feel that his threats can turn into action.  We need to take a closer look at what is happening in our community and we must put a stop to this at all cost.

Here are few of his videos


Here are some of the comments and threats made by Kilo Bravo: Kilo wrote: "and yours should do the world a favor by euthanizing you and that animal you're sucking off." Kilo wrote: "and you deserve a righteous ass beating." Kilo Bravo (friends with Sabrina Anna Samone) replied to your comment on Ryders Eyewear's status. Kilo wrote: "maybe you should finish the deed and actually become roadkill." Kilo Bravo (friends with Sabrina Anna Samone) replied to your comment on Ryders Eyewear's status. Kilo wrote: "But come back anytime. I can scare your bitch ass even more. I should make a vague comment about new mexico to really scare you. Lol." You tell me does this sound like a stable individual who should be on hormones? Many in our community lack coping skills and to tell you the truth, I believe they have greater issues than Gender Dysphoria. Please note I would normally use the proper pronouns to identify a trans individual, but this person deserved no respect after the way he conducted himself and even quoted that he was more of a man than me.

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Learning To Free Yourself From Old Programming



Many of times our own thoughts create distress, we don't realize that they are only thoughts and can't hurt you. We are the master of our Universe, what other people think about you does not define you. Learn to break free, be good with who you are, and everything will fall into place.

Learning 2 cope, can save your life.


Mark Angelo

Saturday, May 24, 2014

Recruiting Mentors



If you are a trans individual who feels comfortable in their skin, who has learn to let go of hang ups and do not get offended easily by words or how people view you, please send us your information and become part of the mentoring team.

We are looking for stories of success, we are looking to create a network of well balanced individuals that are part of the LGBT community and allies as well. Please fill out the form provided on this blog. We want to lead by example and show the community that being happy does not depend on the outside world, but on self.

We will be sharing stories on the blog to empower and give strength to those who need it, to those who feel threatened by the world around them. When we transitioned we took a big risk. Many of us lost friends and family. We lost our jobs and our confidence. Many were not equipped with the tools and coping skills it takes to be transgender. So you lash out at the world and take on the victim mentality. You don't have to be that way. We want to help you see life in a different light. We want you to own up to your reality and to realize that the world owes us nothing. You want to express yourself and be you and that is fine. But don't expect a cheer leading squad. Your gender specialist have fallen short and have not treated other issues that you have acquired or have had since inception. 

Being Trans takes a lot of guts and strength, let our mentors help you get there and learn to be happy. Awareness is the key to healing yourself. Life can be wonderful and the world a wonderful place to live in. This program is looking to find a perfect fit between mentor and a trans person in need. Once we have our team in place, we will open up the platform for those who want to be mentored. #Learn2Cope

Problems Need Solutions


Many of us come from dysfunctional families, we have issues that have been with us since our inception, call it genetic or call neurological.  My point here is not to judge you or criticize you, on the contrary I want to help find a solution to our problems. Many minorities have history of pain due to the treatment they have received through out the years and have developed a victim mentality. One thing I do know and trust me I don't know everything, but with my degree as an Occupational Therapist they always taught me to not focus on the disabilities, instead focus on your patients abilities, always find a solution before pointing out their problems. So with that in mind, the light bulb went off this morning, as I read the many articles that show the anger and dysfunction in our community, I said to myself, instead of pointing out all their faults, lets do something to help them cope. Hence, #Learn2Cope project.